Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Everybody smokes in Europe !

Another culture shock coming from LA to Belgium: everybody in Europe seems to smoke! I'm sitting on the corner of the Groenplaats and it seems like I can't see anyone not smoking like 10 packs of cigarettes a day. Everywhere I go, nicotine fumes waft up my nostrils. Sometimes I feel like I'm suffocating on the spot.

Right now, I'm enjoying a VERY small diet coke, no ice, for 2 VERY expensive euro's and there are 4 teens smoking their brains out, blowing processed nicotine my way. I feel like saying something, but there's a smoker's posse occupying the tables outside, as in, EVERY SOUL sitting outside is smoking. I'd probably unleash a smoker's revolution if I stood up and make a comment about it. Oh yeah, for the smart asses in the crowd: no, I'm will not be forced to go and sit in the 'Smoking only' section. ;)

But it's not just here; I realized that a lot of my friends still smoke; when we go out, lighting a cigarette is the first thing they do. And it's not that I mind people smoking, I mind the smoke that they don't keep to themselves, I hate the smell of ash tray in my clothes after a good night out.

Smoking is NOT cool. Smoking is NOT a social thing, if you quit smoking, you won't quit socializing, trust me.

Europe, stop smoking ! Not only the air, but also the streets will be clean again.. And best of all, everybody will be able to enjoy an expensive diet Coke on a sunny afternoon.

Sunday, July 20, 2008

Appartement in de sjakos !

Een week vol terrasjes doen, op restaurant gaan, feestjes geven en vriendenbezoekjes achter de rug en we hebben weeral goed nieuws: mijn volgend adres wordt Brouwerstraat nr 11 in Berchem ! Een gezellig straatje met bloemetjes en zo goed als geen verkeer, vlakbij het station en de tram naar 't stad, en ook dicht bij vrienden ! Een House warming party mag je verwachten rond 1 oktober !

En er zijn zelfs al fotootjes:



Dank u dank u Els om het mij het appartementje van uw mama aan te raden ! :)

Het feestje vrijdagavond was trouwens super. Goed bijgebabbeld, iedereen was in form, veel gelachen en gedronken. ;) Ook hier enkele fotootjes van te zien, we hebben jammer genoeg wel niet iedereen op foto !



Ondertussen kijk ik er naar uit om eindelijk op een paar sollicitatie gesprekken te gaan. Deze week verwacht ik nog een gesprek bij Dredging te gaan doen, de week daarop nog een interview bij het OZ. Tussendoor kijk ik nog op de VDAB naar andere vacatures; heb er eentje gezien om de admin te gaan doen bij Media Markt: voor de personeelskorting alleen al zou ik het doen; dan kan ik mijn flatscreen en surround system goedkoper in huis halen !

Ik moet bekennen dat ik niet elke dag vol positiviteit rondloop; af en toe heb ik momenten dat ik moe ben en denk: was ik maar al gewoon aan het werk; zeker van een inkomen; zat ik al maar in mijn zetel in mijn appartement, alles geregeld, genietend van een filmpje met wat vrienden, of een lekkere maaltijd aan het koken voor mezelf. Ik kijk er echt naar uit om mijn stulpje super gezellig in te richten zodat ik mij er de komende jaren in mag thuis voelen, als een warme cocon waarin ik mijn toevlucht vind na een lange werkdag.

Met al het plannen is het een uitdaging om echt in het NU te blijven; het is verleidelijk om te denken aan het solli-gesprek dat nog moet komen of te hunkeren naar het moment dat ik de deur van mijn eigen thuis achter mij kan dichttrekken, terwijl ik nu al in een gezellig huis zit. Deze week zit ik even alleen; vanavond nog eens een echte belgische TV avond met wat chips en een lekkere hoegaarden. Genieten; genieten, en nog eens genieten. :)

Saturday, July 19, 2008

Zorgenvrij leven

Vandaag ergens gelezen:

" If you have trouble getting in touch with your carefree side, focus on how things feel instead of worrying whether you look silly. "

Een waarheid als een koe. Meuh.

Friday, July 18, 2008

Antwerpen herontdekt

Gisteren op m'n eentje door het stad gekuierd. De tram naar de opera genomen om de 'tour de shopping' te doen maar toen ik boven kwam was ik heel effe mijn kluts kwijt. Ik wandelde vol moed de leien af maar dan richting justitiepaleis in plaats van Keyserlei. Pas toen ik het vreemd vond dat ik de kruising met de Meir nog niet was tegengekomen viel mijne 'frang'. (Ja, mijn Antwerps begint stilaan terug te komen. ;))

Wat mij meteen opviel was hoe alles hier veramerikaanst is: smoothies overal, Ben & Jerry's (maar toch geen strawberry cheesecake te vinden!), Mc Donalds, en ook klerenwinkels die de amerikaanse mode hebben overgenomen.
Vreemd genoeg was er ook overal Engels te horen; allicht zal er die dag net een Amerikaans cruiseship aangemeerd geweest zijn in Antwerpen. De straten liepen vol met jeugd die lachend en springend over de Meir en de Groenplaats paradeerde en de belgische jongeren zonder hoodies en teensletsen het nakijken gaf.

Onmiddellijk viel het mij ook op hoe goedkoop cd's en dvd's hier zijn ! Super titels van de voorbij jaren aan 6 euro t'stuk ! Ik kom met mijn eerstvolgende pré nog wel wat filmtitels shoppen. Hmzz.

In het midden van de Meir is de oude stadsfeestzaal helemaal vernieuwd tot een ultra modern shoppingcenter, en in het midden is er een Laurent Perrier cafe gevestigd zodat je er gouden champagne bubbels kunt gaan drinken. Op de eerst verdieping kan je nu naar een nieuwe multimedia winkel die sterk concurreert met Media markt; mocht ik al aan het werk geweest zijn was ik nu allicht een flat screen, surround system, 20 dvd's en 10 cd's rijker, of gewoon armer ja; tis maar hoe je't bekijkt.

Ondertussen heeft de werkzoektocht al een leuke kans opgebracht: Randstad Beveren bood me een vacature aan als HR professional bij Dredging International, een van de grootste baggerbedrijven in de wereld. De voertaal is Engels, en dat is natuurlijk leuk meegenomen. Minpunt; het ligt in de waaslandhaven en is niet bereikbaar met het openbaar vervoer, dus een auto zal dan wel noodzakelijk zijn. Maar, gezien de interessante loonsvoorwaarden en doorgroeimogelijkheden zou dat best wel kunnen. Ik was gisteren ook nog gaan kijken naar tweedehandswagens bij de VAB-VTB in zwijndrecht en daar stonden er al een paar interessante tussen. Op krediet te kopen dan weliswaar.

Natuurlijk is het allemaal nog even afwachten; geen auto nodig hebben is uiteraard ideaal, het openbaar vervoer hier rond Antwerpen is al zo uitgebreid dat je best zonder kan. En ja, een trein nemen naar Sint Niklaas voelt nog aan als de metro in NY nemen :). Maar je vrienden gaan opzoeken in de verre uithoeken van Belgie is al wat minder evident. Ach, we zullen wel zien.

Vandaag nog een paar bakken bier gaan halen voor het feestje van vanavond; ik kijk er naar uit om iedereen nog eens terug te zien !

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Job jacht

Ik heb helemaal niet het gevoel 'back in reality' te zijn, integendeel, ik betrap me er op in vakantiestemming te zijn; terrasjes doen, bezoekjes afleggen aan vrienden en familie, gisteren nog lekker gaan eten en drinken in Antwerpen terwijl het zonnetje af en toe tevoorschijn kwam en mij onvermijdelijk deed vergeten dat mijn allerbelangrijkste prioriteit het vinden van werk is.

En het is net dat waar ik nu geen zin in heb; ik weet niet of het ligt aan het feit dat ik een half jaar geleden ook op zoek was naar werk en dat het continu checken van online vacatures, overtuigende sollicitatie brieven schrijven en uitputtende sollicitatiegesprekken voeren mij met een aversie voor job hunting heeft opgezadeld, of het idee dat ik misschien gewoon bij mijn vorige werkgever aan de slag zal kunnen en het dus een waist of time is om te solliciteren voor andere vacatures.

En wat voor vacatures, administratief bediende; offertes opmaken, telefoons - EIKES ! Of Contact center agent: veel bla bla aan de telefoon met zeikerds die niks anders te doen hebben dan klagen. Of verkoop; doen alsof je DE oplossing hebt die uw leven zal veranderen - naaah; niks voor mij.

Wat wil ik dan wel doen ? Ik moet bekennen, nog geen jaar geleden zou het mij niet veel hebben uitgemaakt. Nu wil ik gewoon iets vinden waar ik mijn rekeningen mee kan betalen, mijn studies mee kan combineren en vooral, een job waar ik niet van in slaap val of afstomp.

Ik ga vandaag ten rade bij de interimkantoren in Antwerpen. Ik heb geen fut om mezelf via CV's en solli-brieven te verkopen aan de bedrijven zelf, laat de uitzendconsulenten dat maar voor mij doen. Stuur mij op pad, oh commerciele consulenten en laat mij maar babbelen op een sollicitatiegesprek; zo komt het zeker goed !

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Terug in België

Een blog in het Nederlands ? Jaaa, terug in Belgie is opnieuw in het Nederlands schrijven, en het is nodig ook want ik ben al drie keer aan deze blog begonnen en telkens opnieuw denk ik, naaah, dit leest niet vlot.

Deze blog gaat iets stijver klinken vrees ik maar het komt wel los. Ik moet, want binnen twee maand wordt het Nederlands mijn 'specialisatie'; ik ga me tijdens mijn opleiding leerkracht onderwijs verdiepen in het Engels en Nederlands om het later aan middelbare school kinderen te kunnen lesgeven.

De vlucht naar huis is vlot verlopen. Ik sta er altijd van versteld hoe breed die airbussen zijn en krijg dan het gevoel op een ruimteschip te stappen. Wanneer ik de 'first class' doorwandel denk ik, waarom kunnen ze first class niet achteraan het vliegtuig zetten ? Met lede ogen moet je als tweedeklasser aanzien hoe zakenmensen en VIPS in hun luxe stoelen achterover zakken en de mooiste stewardessen van de crew hen gratis drankjes glimlachend staan te serveren.

Niet voor mij weggelegd dus. Ik check het nummer van mijn zitje op mijn ticket en zoek naar 13-H, 'aisle seat'. De toiletten staan in het midden van het vliegtuig en natuurlijk is dat ook net de plaats waar ik zit. Great. 7 uur lang geur plezier.

Gelukkig zit er in 13-I een jonge meid die vriendelijk goeiedag zegt wanneer ik mijn koffer in de baggage ruimte steek. Ik schrik even op wanneer ik met mijn gezicht op een tulband stoot die met een draai veranderd in een overmatig behaard gezicht waar een gemoffelde "mag ik mijn koffer in jou baggage ruimte steken?" door klinkt. Ik knik ja - misschien wordt ik zo wel gespaard tijdens zijn mogelijke hijacking van het vliegtuig.

Veel slapen doe ik nooit tijdens een vlucht. Ik kan met moeite wat indommelen terwijl voorbijrollende karretjes en spelende kinderen op mijn linkerarm en zijbeen inbeuken.
Gelukkig heb ik babbelmaatje 13I, Amber, een Amerikaanse die in Oregon woont maar jaarlijks op bezoek gaat bij haar familie in Brussel. Frans spreekt ze een beetje, Nederlands kent ze niet en dus is Engels tot aan de landing in Zaventem de voertaal, af en toe onderbroken door aankondigingen in het frans, nederlands en gebrekkig Engels. Wat is dat wennen ! Nederlands zien staan op de schermpjes lijkt ook zo onecht.

En dan eindelijk, door het raampje zie ik de rode dakpannen van de dorpjes rond Brussel, de uitgestrekte boerenvelden en de grijze wolken boven het landschap voorbij glijden; ik ben weer in Belgie. De luchthaven van Zaventem ligt er maar verlaten bij. Weinig verkeer in de terminal, alleen vlucht 714 vanuit Washington staat aan de baggage band te wachten.

De eerste indrukken zijn de meest verrassende : zoveel Europese auto's ! Zoveel verkeersborden overal ! Zo snel dat ze hier rijden ! Zo krap op elkaar allemaal !
Onderweg een koffietje drinken in een weg restaurant is ook een ervaring: een mini bekertje kost 2 euro ! Gedaan met de royale Starbucks cups. En nog: je moet hier betalen om naar het wc te gaan ! Mijn eerste frustratie steekt al op.. en het zal niet bij deze keer blijven. Ik vind het schandalig dat ze geld durven te vragen om uw hoogdringende behoefte te doen.

De eerste dagen in Belgie lijkt op een 'trip down memory lane'. Nutteloze informatie zoals 'wat is de naam ook weer van die hamburger in Quick ? GIANT !' wordt weer opgefrist, het plattegrondje van Antwerpen haal ik in mijn brein weer naar boven (hier geen zuid west noord oost, maar bordjes volgen tot in de gemeentes), euro's lijken echt op monopolie geld, en ja, op een onbewaakt moment verontschuldig ik me nog in het Engels.

Al een aantal dagen hoor ik geen gesproken Engels meer en dat doet raar. Ik mis het zo hard dat ik soms de tv hier opzet, gewoon om me effe weer 'thuis' te voelen. Een mens past zich toch snel aan..

En zo rustig dat het hier is ! Bijna geen verkeer, weinig politie sirenes,.. Antwerpen op zondag middag lijkt doodverlaten. Waar zit iedereen toch ?

Wat is er allemaal veranderd tov vorig jaar ? Nog niet al te veel denk ik ? Het leven is duurder geworden, Kanaal 2 noemt nu 2B maar ze geven nog altijd dezelfde programma's, Hanna Montana is zelfs een bekend sterretje aan het worden hier, en smoetties *RIL* Komaan Vlamingen, spreek het goed uit : SMOOTHIES !!) zijn een echte rage.

Een lijstje frustraties:
- Veel geld betalen voor een klein glaasje cola en geen refill krijgen.
- Betalen voor wc's,
- Geen goeiedag meer krijgen bij het binnenwandelen van winkels, of gewoon op straat,
- Geen gezellige babbels meer in winkels, op bussen, etc. Ik wandelde daarnet de kapper binnen en vroeg uit gewoonte 'alles goe' en dat leken ze maar heel raar te vinden.
- de overbeleefdheid van belgen : "Zo meneer, u mag gaan zitten',
- de muziek op de radio; te veel dance en rare muziek,
- mijn online shows niet meer kunnen zien; nu is het minstens 3 jaar wachten op reeks 5 van desperate housewives.

Een lijstje van 'aaah's, dit heb ik gemist.'
- Een boke met kwatta choco
- Een pak friet met mammoet saus.
- Een terrasje doen met vrienden en een Hoegaarden drinken
- Pistolets, sandwiches, gouda kaas, curry ketchup, etc etc

Ik geef toe dat ik weinig tijd heb gehad om de blog te updaten de voorbije dagen, maar dat gaat weer beteren zodra ik weer helemaal ben gesetteld.

Mijn roomietje Els heeft zo haar best gedaan om mij te verwelkomen in haar huis. Mijn kamer is gezellig ingericht met zeteltjes, een dubbelbed en een computerkastje. Ik heb zelfs een aparte kamer waar ik mijn rommel en kleren kan leggen. Perfect dus.

Gisteren had ik ook nog een sollicitatiegesprek voor 'Permanent Verantwoordelijke' in Jeugdcentrum 'Den Eglantier." Een half uur na het afgesproken uur werd ik dan eindelijk naar binnen geroepen; er zat 9 man naar mij te staren terwijl er langs alle kanten vragen werden gesteld. Ik voelde me letterlijk op de rooster gelegd worden maar ik heb me koel kunnen houden. Al bij al viel het best mee, behalve wanneer de oudste van de groep mij vragen begon te stellen over het gebrek aan mijn 'christelijke' interesse. Ik heb bij het Onafhankelijk Ziekenfonds gewerkt en hij vroeg zich af of ik wel voeling had met de christelijke waarden. Wablief. Ik heb gezegd dat ik best achter de christelijke waarden sta en vind ook dat ieder vrij is om te geloven wat die wil.
"Ja maar, wat is er voor de jeugd aan de gang vandaag?"
'Eur, zoeken naar identiteit ?"
'Nee, ge snapt ni wat ik bedoel ; waar houden ze zich mee bezig nu ?"
"Eh ?"
"Ja, awel, de paus zit in australie en.. BLA BLA BLA" hier ben ik gestopt met luisteren.
"ik zie het al, blijkbaar weet ge ni veel van christelijke zaken."

JA zeg.

Het loon is niet om over naar huis te schrijven; het ligt rond de 2000 bruto, en heb er geen idee meer van hoeveel ik daar nu netto van zou overhouden. Het is weekend werk en ook occassioneel avondwerk, en dat zie ik zo niet echt zitten.

Dus allicht wordt dit niks. Volgende week donderdag gaan ze mij nog iets laten weten.

Maar eigenlijk hoop ik opnieuw bij het OZ te kunnens starten. Ik ken het daar al, ze hebben daar veel voordelen (glijtijden ! verlof ! maaltijdcheques ! Hospitalisatieverzekering ! etc) en dat vind ik wel belangrijk.

Verder geniet ik best van mijn nieuwe leventje. Het is nog heel pril, maar mijn vrienden dichtbij hebben en nu zonder veel gedoe kunnen afspreken voor een terrasje of een bezoekje aan huis is een hele opluchting.

Er staat nog heel wat op het programma: werk vinden, appartementje vinden, inboedel bij een verzamelen, gsm nummer aanvragen, inschrijven op het gemeentehuis, bezoekjes afleggen, naar walibi gaan, enzovoorts.

Stof genoeg dus voor toekomstige blogs ! Ik ben moe. Slaapwel !

PS. check out the new movie trailer: WALL-E ! (Helemaal onderaan)

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Crappy 4th of July - ode to America

We were eager to see the fireworks and 4th of July Parade in Washington, DC and so we left Thursday night for a friend's house in Silver Spring near the Capitol. On our way we stopped at a Burger King to get the King of Burgers: a Whopper with cheese. These burgers are the best, I'm telling you ; big, round and scrumptious, with juicy tomatoes, pickles, onion rings and American cheese melted on a grilled patty and of course, the famous BK sauce.. hmm. To die for. Well, it's been 7 weeks since I ate my last Whopper. I guess that makes you appreciate a good burger even more. They have these BK commercials where they fool customers that they've discontinued the Whopper and people start to freak out. I found two of these commercials for you. The first one is a real live short commercial, the second one is filmed at a BK in one of Minnesota's Afro-American neighborhoods. Note that the second movie is a parody, full of profanity and so not suited for sensitive people. ;)

ONE:


TWO:


Some how, I think I'm in love with about anything that is an American icon. I love baseball caps, T-shirts with any kind of logo on (colleges, sports, etc), a comfortable sweat shirt and pants, converse all stars, pick up trucks, yellow school buses, and of course the star spangled banner. I don't know if it's the stars or the stripes but the flaunting flag mesmerizes me every time.

I vision myself sitting in my future apartment, surrounded by hundreds of vintage Cola glasses and model pick up trucks, and life-like posters of Marilyn Monroe, James Dean and Mickey Mouse hanging on the wall. Well - I don't think it'll ever come that far.

Another thing that often strikes me are the huge distances in this country. Here we are, driving down to Silver Spring and taking Highway 70 going West, when we come across a sign that states the mileage to the next cities along this Highway. Last one: Cove Port - 2200 miles ! (3520 km!). Take that, Michelin !

So Friday morning, we go to this quilted diner, one of the many authentic American restaurants around the East Coast, and have breakfast. Hits from the sixties and seventies are playing through authentic table juke boxes, waitresses in skirts run around like chickens and I'm freezing my butt off because the AC is going full blast. You can tell people are getting ready to celebrate Independence Day; some of them are dressed in a red, white and blue-outfit, especially their kids (hey, if you have a kid, why would you make a fool out of yourself, right). Platters stacked with Blueberry pancakes, Benedict eggs, sausage links and bacon zoom by while my nose lingers after, but having had a Denny's grand slam for breakfast every morning (scrambled eggs, toast, sausage links, hash browns (potatoes) and two fluffy pancakes with maple syrup) during my trip at the West Coast, I opt out for the American Breakfast and end up ordering a Philly cheese Steak.

This hearty meal was well worth it, because after taking the Metro to downtown Washington, the humidity was excruciating. Also, by the time we reached Constitution Avenue (the street that runs parallel to the National Mall), the Independence Day Parade seemed to be running to and end; we barely reached the sidewalk to see a floating eagle hovering by and dozens of smiling Krishna's yelling "We love you" to the crowd, waving and tripping over their robes.

We had to go through one the security check points before we could walk the green lawn of the National Mall. They spend millions of dollars on security; every visitor needs to go through the security gates (just like in the airport), bags are checked and suspicious people frisked. When you walk around Washington, you do think about the possibility of a terrorist attack. I mean, it's the 4th of July, you're in the Nation's Capitol with hundreds of thousands of people, what better time to be bombed by the Al Quada, right ? But you try not to worry about this and enjoy the festivities around you.

Not that there were much during the day. The Smithsonian Institute had organized a Folklife festival. Texas was the state of honor, the country of honor was Bhuton, and NASA was also present. I still don't know how NASA would have anything to do with Folk life.
Bhuton was the most interesting section on the Mall. They had built a Buddhist Temple out of wood and metal. I didn't go in there. It was 35 degrees Celsius outside, sweat was dripping down my spine and dozen of people were lined up to take a peek inside a shack that was decorated like a Buddhist temple. If I had to sweat this much to see a temple, I'd rather go for the real thing and travel to Tibet.

So I ended up doing what most Americans would do when they're too hot ; I fled to air-conditioned buildings. Thank you America for having free Museums in Washington.
I visited the contemporary Art Museum, the Smithsonian Castle and the National Air and Space museum. Pretty impressive this one with authentic satellites, rockets, space shuttles and a bunch of airplanes from the era of Grimm to World War 2.

Of course, this all American Day would not be complete without a Quarter Pounder with Cheese and a Diet Coke from Mc Donalds. 7 bucks for a meal ! Very undemocratic, I thought.

The real reason we wanted to celebrate the 4th of July in Washington DC was to see thousands of Americans going out of their minds on the National Anthem and of course to see the fireworks that this celebration is famous for. But not one hyper, beer drinking American sang the American National Anthem or yelled out crazy stuff into the direction of the White House.

By 5PM, thick dark rain clouds rolled in. We were hot, tired, and soon to be rained out and since it wasn't until 9:30 PM that the fireworks would start, we decided to just head back home and go for the best seat which is in front of our own TV. And we were happy we did, because the show was disappointing. The fireworks seemed to vaporize into the misty rain clouds looming above the National Mall. Hell, the NY fire works above the Hudson river turned out to be even more impressive on TV.

What a bummer this day was. But, I did get to be a part of this big Nation's National Independence Day.

Check out a few pictures :



In 2001, Aki and I celebrated our first 4th of July with the Edlefsen family in LA. First we went to the famous Hollywood Bowl and then there was a fair at El Segundo with pie eating and hoola hoop contests. That night we watched the fire works in El Segundo. This is we're we've seen the best fire works show so far. Best part: I made a movie of it back then: stick with it till the end, you'll see why (and see a 19 year old Aki).

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Language issues

Today I called my dentist in Belgium to make an appointment for a cleaning this month and I noticed how weird it was for me to make a "business" call in Dutch again. I mean, it's not as if I've not been calling people through Skype in Dutch before, but it's usually friends and family and not some one I have to use my 'telephone etiquette' with. Some how, I've gotten used to the way Americans start their conversations. They often start with "How are you", which of course is NOT DONE in Belgium (again, unless you're calling a friend or family member).

I also realized that this house we live in is some kind of a Dutch bubble. Within these 4 walls we speak and hear Dutch, but whenever we want to reach the outside world, we switch to English. It has become an automatic switch; whenever I walk out of the door I talk to either the neighbors, people in the store, on the phone, .. I talk in English.

So, in a way, whenever I make a phone call, my brain tends to think I'm going to make that call in English.. and when I made that Dutch phone call to my dentist today, I ended up translating feverishly during the conversation:

"hallo, ik bel om een afspraak te maken voor een cleaning."
"Een wat?"
"Een, eur, oppoetsbeurt."

*this is a dramatization, of course* :)

Anyways, I'm so used to talking English outside of these walls that it feels weird not to. When I'm in a store and I want to pass somebody that is looking at an article, I immediately and without thinking say "scuze me". I hope I won't do this when I'm back.

Another thing that I'm going to have to be aware of is stopping for a red light when making a right hand turn. I mean, in the US, you can make a right turn on red when there's no oncoming traffic. That's a big NO NO in Belgium. Heck, if they pull me over I can always show them my California driver's license and pretend I'm an ignorant American. Haha, I guess that wouldn't work for long.

Anyways, I fooled around with this Voki thing I discovered online today. Check out my personal welcome message to the right. I think I will change it regularly, just to keep things interesting and up to date.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

I usually don't like Reality TV Shows

But I'm HOOKED on these American shows :

NUMERO UNO : ABC's "Wipeout" (my absolute favorite, for now at least):

Teaser:


For who wants to see part 1 of the first episode (you'll laugh you heart out !)


part 2 : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QSPj2XpgUJE
part 3 : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lrOhKr_MXY0
part 4 : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhrkINzH89Y
part 5 : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nYt15SOlmgI

NUMERO DOS : I survived a Japanese Game show:



NUMERO TRES : The Mole (of course !)


PS. I know this "blog" sucks, will write more soon !

Friday, June 27, 2008

Keeping it fresh

You've got to keep things fresh, so I adjusted my template today.

I also put up a new movie trailer; Hancock. I've been looking forward to see it come out because it's shot in LA.

It's also cool to recognize the highways he is flying over. I mean, that's where I've been driving from and to work like hundreds of times.

The funny thing is, the voice in the trailer says Hancock is "going North bound on the 110" right before Will Smith smashes through the traffic sign, but at that time he is in fact still on the 105 East leading towards the 110. You can tell because the sign he smashes shows the direction for either 110 south (San Pedro) and 110 North (Los Angeles), the highway they say he is already on.

Now, the 105 is right next to the LAX airport and El Segundo, the town where I spent my first weeks with the Edlefsen family. For this scene, they shut a small part of the 105 (the part in El Segundo) down for about a day of filming. So it's pretty cool to see the result.

The reason they're mentioning this misplaced information is probably because the car that Hancock throws up in the air, gets stuck on the peak of the famous round Capitol Records building in Hollywood (you see this in the trailer).

The Capitol Records building is a very famous building in Hollywood and sits right next to the 101 North. To get there from where Will Smith crashes through the sign, you actually have to follow the 110 North all the way through downtown LA (you see the car tumbling through the skyscrapers of downtown LA) and get on the 101 to get to Hollywood, where this Capitol Records building is (and the car ends up on its peak). So from where Hancock smashes the sign to the final shot of the car sitting on the capitol building, it's actually still a good 20 miles of driving. I guess the filmmakers wanted to give the audience a head's up on where we are heading in this scene.

Hehe, this is probably very boring information for everybody that isn't familiar with the city, but I'm just thrilled to see it.

Anyho. Have you looked at the poll results lately ? 1 person thinks Belgium is the best country in the world to live in, 2 out of 6 digs it most of the time (unless fries and beer are running scarce), one person only likes Belgium when on a holiday in another country (haha), and 2 people would rather be put on a plane to another country than to live in Belgium.

Wauw ! That's a lot of different opinions. I guess I have learned to appreciate living in Belgium because I have lived in another country for a year. I wonder if I'll ever see Belgium as a country again and not just a 'state' in Europe. Sure, there's a bigger difference between France and Belgium than Maryland and Delaware for example, but still, Belgium really isn't all that big. But sooo charming.. instead of wanting to live in the fast lane, I'm calming down, settling into a life that I can enjoy in a peaceful way. :) And even though Belgium is not exactly Spain, compared to the US, I think Belgium is way more relaxed.

Oh, check out the new poll ! Gosh, I love these things. :)

Thursday, June 26, 2008

The clock is ticking

It was bound to happen after 6 weeks of doing nothing : I have a blogger's block. That sorta happens when you don't get out too much and don't meet any strange, funny or obnoxious people.

All I do these days is this:

Go for a run,
Do sit and push-ups,
Eat,
Watch movies on digital on demand (still so many movies to gooo !),
Read,
Do research on stuff,
Talk to people on MSN and skype,
Sleep,
Drink,
Eat,
Go for a run,
...

and go shopping for food. :)

So, I guess you could say my life is boring right now, but of course I'm the one responsible for it. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the ocean of time I'm having now to get into shape and catch up on reading books and watching films.

Meanwhile, I'm about done with arranging things to move back to Belgium. Spoke with the IRS (Internal Revenue Service) yesterday to ask them if I should file my taxes now or wait until next year.

It took us about half an hour to come up with this: Normally, I would need a "sailing permit" (yes, it's a term they've used since medieval times, a permit that will allow you to sail to Europe) which states that I have paid my taxes. But, after browsing 'Publication 159" of Tax law, we discovered that as a J-2 Visa holder, I am exempt of having to get that permit. That saves me a lot of trouble.

I do, however, need to file my taxes, but not until next year. And best thing of all; I will definitely get a tax refund. Too bad it won't be in Euro's, though :). But it's a nice gift anyways.

So that leaves me printing out my ticket to Belgium. I will leave from Washington International on July 10th at 6PM and set foot on Belgian soil the next day, July 11th at 7:30 AM, local time. I hope I won't forget my earplugs so I can get some sleep on the plane.

Also, packing my things will be a challenge. I'm bringing about two suit cases; maybe 1/4 of one of them won't even be my stuff but things for the family and some friends. I feel like I'm a sales agent with all of these goodies. :)

And of course, meanwhile I have contacted some prospective employers, and looked at some apartments.. I'm really excited about getting my own crib and have lots of parties and movie nights and drinks and sleepovers and what not. :)

These are the things you will read about when I get back: my life in Belgium, fresh and uncut.
Maybe I'll put my blog on hiatus until the 11th. Maybe not. It all depends on when things start happening again.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

A visit to the orthodontist

I always feel like they're setting me up for a hell of a ride when I'm being directed to one of the dentist seats.

They usually put me in front of the window, so I can look outside while waiting for the supervising orthodontist to check on my teeth. After some waiting, the assistant looks at my chart, spits out the obligatory "How are you doing today" and hurries off to get the tools that the doctor will be needing for my treatment.

There's one thing that stares at me every time I take a seat; a pair of black plastic protective glasses.
You can tell these are worn by every patient visiting this chair because of the fingerprints and greasy residue that's left on them. Unfortunately, the liability policy states that every patient needs to wear these protective glasses. I usually don't put them on until the very last moment. I wait until the assistant says "here we go", as if pushing the automatic seat reclining button is going to shoot me into the sky. That is my signal for obscuring my vision with the greasy glasses (I call 'em GG's).

What bothers me is that they usually start chit-chatting about what happened in the news or ask if I saw the latest episode of their favorite sitcom. They become inquisitive about your opinion on things in life and you try to answer everything by nodding your head, suppressing tongue spasms, avoiding sharp metal objects hovering over your face, hoping the subtle head movements you make will be interpreted as some useful answer to their questions.
And they actually understand what you're saying, too.

Sometimes they stab me. Every time one of their pointy tools digs its way into my gums, the assistant yells in my ear. "Oh my god, this has never happened to me before, I'm so sorry," and I think "yeah right, that's what you said last time, A-hole." Oh yes, the assistant is a dude. That's what makes it even less bearable.

My supervising orthodontist then takes over and starts talking to me as if I'm her best buddy; she asks me about my life in California, about what life's like in Belgium, what my future plans are and where she can find those delicious Belgian chocolates. And sometimes, instead of lying on a dentist chair, I feel like I'm having a session on a couch with a shrink. I mean, she asks me things I thought a dentist wasn't supposed to ask.

One time, she put the seat up and looked at me with her big brown eyes. I guess some people would give a hug or burst out in tears after what she was about to muffle through her blue mouth cloth. But all I could do was swallow down chemical residue and smile sheepishly.

She said: "Never forget - there's always a way.. OK?"

I'm really going to miss these visits.

PS. Here's a bit of Alex Agnew's stand-up comedy tour, talking about going to the dentist. I think it's hilarious:

Sunday, June 22, 2008

I love roller coasters

and watch other people ride them:



This kid poops his pants while riding his first coaster:



This is the world's scariest coaster :



OMG - I wanna go !! :-)

The British version :) :

Friday, June 20, 2008

Movie experience

I can't believe I always end up next to the noisiest, most obnoxious people when I go to the movies.

Last week, during the dumbest film I've seen in a VERY long time ("You don't mess with the Zohan"), I was sitting quietly in my seat, patiently letting people pass until suddenly this fat chick and a dude drop their huge asses in the seats right next to me. She settles into the seat, smiles at me and says thank you, like we had made some sort of agreement that I was going to keep them seats.

I totally felt my private space invaded. On top of that, the woman places her can of coke right into MY cup holder, then wips out a bucket of buffalo chicken wings and starts chewing them down like Gollem eating fresh fish out of the creeck. Her hubbie leans forward, asks if he can have a bite, the woman grunts and as she passes the wing she was already working on, their toddler appears from nowhere and starts crying. O great.

I tried to be cool with it, you know, tried to stay open minded and all, be in a Zen-like state, focus on the movie, but when the kid started repeating the on-screen dialogue and Mom was laughing more with their own kid than the movie (I have to admit; she was cute), I could not help but give an occasional and very demonstrative sigh.

They finally got the hint and after a while she dropped her daughter into the dude's arms and sends them walking, probably off to the toilet to give the kid instructions on how to behave in a movie theater.

The woman didn't say anything, but laughed hysterically with every little thing. In the end, I didn't really miss a lot of the movie .. it sucked anyways.

Today, I saw "Get Smart" with Steve Carell. I love that guy. And it's a funny movie too. I liked it.

So did the couple two seats away from me. They were laughing out load - scratch that, they expressed their enjoyment by hollering, slapping their legs at every joke, giving in to occasional hand clapping or whistling.
One thing I got to hand to them; they made the jokes on screen become more hilarious. You could tell people around us were laughing more then the people sitting on the right hand side of the theater, where everything was peaceful and quiet.

Americans don't seem to care what other people think when they're enjoying themselves in the movie theater. And I don't blame them at all, in fact, I think their enthusiasm brings out more enjoyment for the ones around them. But when that enthusiasm goes over the top, I just get embarrassed in their place and wish I was sitting in the movie theater in Sint Niklaas, where almost nobody goes to see a movie on a Friday morning and I can enjoy the movie in my own way without any additional 'soundtrack.'

Thursday, June 19, 2008

My view on Destiny

The poll question for this week was: Do you believe in Destiny ?

2 out of 5 people think that they create their own future.

I agree. We have the power to create what is best for us, as long as we are conscious of the fact that the concept 'future' is a relative concept and doesn't really exist. Of course, I am not talking about practical time; if you want to schedule an appointment or whatever. You need practical time because that is how we agreed to organize things.

I am talking about psychological time.. in psychological time, the future or present does not exist. When we're thinking about what happened in the past, about that argument we had or that party we went to, we are thinking about it Now.
If we're thinking about what we''re going to do this summer, or what we're going to say when we meet the person we have an appointment with, we're thinking about that Now !

So, I also believe I create my own future, as I can decide in each moment how I will react in that very moment and then in the next, and the next and so on.

Again, 2 other people voted that some things are just meant to be.

I agree. Things are meant to Be. But 'meant to be' is often used as an excuse for pretending to have accepted something we haven't really come to terms with.. We often say "It's meant to be" because we believe that some ''outer force' has control over our lives and we think "hey, what can you do about it, right" ?

Not exactly. I understand why some would believe that things are just 'meant to be'. Somehow I can't help but wonder if this believe comes out of some form of passive acceptance, as if accepting that an 'outer force' is controlling your life and you are just subjected to it because you don't realize that you can decide what is meant to be - for you. Of course, we don't control every little thing in life. But do we really need to ? Where does the need come from to control everything in life ?

1 voter thinks s/he was born to fulfill a great destiny (of course now I'm curious as to who this person is and what his/her destiny could be :) )

Good for him/her ! If that is what gives that person meaning or purpose in life, that's great. But what happens when that destiny is fulfilled ? Do you lose your purpose in life ? What happens when you lose the meaning of your life when you've attained your purpose, your 'destiny' ? Won't you feel lost ? For example, a lot of people are loving, caring parents and say that their purpose in life is to take care of their children, which is absolutely wonderful of course. But by the time the kids move out of the house and the kids don't need the guidance or support from their parents that much any more, a lot of parents feel that they have lost their purpose in life and fall into some sort of identity crisis.. because the identity that they had, the thing that they had identified with all of this time, was being a parent, playing the role of being a parent.. and suddenly, this identity breaks down.. maybe not completely (you will always care for your children of course), but you catch my drift.

I don't really believe in Destiny, as if it were some faith that's been set out for me, as if the universe (or God if you will) has a plan for me that I need to fulfill.

I do believe that Destiny is some sort of thing you want to identify with, because it gives you a purpose in life, it gives you meaning. There's nothing "wrong" with this, of course, but it will never bring out your true - your never ending- meaning in life.

I believe that I'm destined to find my place in this Universe. I do believe that it is not what I do, but how I do it, that is most important in life.

If we're not fully enjoying how we are doing in life, if we're not happy about how our life is at this moment, than this is a signal that we are not living the way we're "destined" to live.

I believe that we have a collective destiny ; be in balance with life, live in complete acceptance (and the word "acceptance" does not mean condone, but we can just accept what is without having to resist it).

I also believe that this collective destiny will manifest itself differently in each of our lives. That is why we think that we each have a different destiny while in fact it is just a different manifestation of one collective destiny, that is:

Instead of living from a desperate wanting in life, our destiny will manifest itself as living from enjoying life.

At least, that is what I try to do every day. :)

On a lighter note; scroll down for a new poll and movie trailer !

PS: Forgetting Sarah Marshall was released in Belgian movie theaters today !

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Future plans and present dreams

I'm totally hyped about moving back to Belgium. There are so many things that I still want to do, and so many things that I have done before but have never finished or have kept up. Here's a list:

- Being a DJ: I used to be pretty good at it, mixing records, combining oldies with contemporary music, pumping up the audience with beats and rhythms. I want to know if I still have it in me. So for one day, I am going to rent a sound system and mix some tunes. Hell, maybe I even end up buying DJ-equipment. Who knows !

- Play the piano: I was in music school for two years. Learned about notes and rhythms and stuff. The second year, we got to pick the instrument we wanted to play. And I chose the piano. Not for long though, because after a few months, my friends in school were taking Judo classes. And as kid desperate to belong, I quit music school and started going to Judo practice, too.
Now I regret having never learned how to play the piano well. So, that's definitely on my to do list; take piano lessons !

- Speaking of playing music, I also took a djembe class once and I absolutely loved it. I still know how to play a rhythm or two and know how to start and end a song. I also love to dance to African music. So, one of the classes I will be taking in the future; Djembe classes and combine it with African Dancing.

- Rock & Roll : My mom used to take me to some R&R classes, and I still remember like two dance moves and know how to throw somebody from my left to my right and through my legs. I want to throw people around, jump around rock and rolling until I drop dead. So next on list ; Rock and Roll classes.

- Film making ; aaah, one of my biggest passions. I'm definitely going to buy a decent video camera and film editing software. I'll probably start out with making some documentaries, or fun stuff, maybe shooting a wedding or a dance here and there, just like I did when I was still in Belgium. And in a few years, I also want to do that 5 year evening class in film. Too bad I can't get a bachelors degree with it. But that's okay, because of this:

- Enjoy friends and family. After one year of spending my time mostly alone in a far and distant country, I've realized that friends and family are one of the most important things in life. So I'm going to enjoy, appreciate and share my life with each and every one of them. No friend is going to be better or more fun or nicer than the other. They're all as great as they are. So I'm going to have fun at parties, have friends over for movie nights and drinks, go to restaurants, the theater, theme parks, go kayaking and so much more.

- Being sporty : I don't want to lose my will to stay in shape and feel healthy. So I'm going to keep up running; or, if I get sick of it, am going to find something else that will keep me in shape. One thing though; I really want to play racket ball (squash). Any body care to join ?

- Traveling : Australia's on the list, New Zealand is too. That's my next big trip. Probably in a few years though. :)

I think of these things not as if they are dreams that need to be realized, these are things that I will be doing very soon. Probably not at the same time, or in the same year, .. but I feel like I wouldn't fully live my life if I wouldn't do these things.

Oh, sure, I still have dreams:

Buy a house of my own.
Have lots of kids.
Write a self-help book.

And die happy.

Monday, June 16, 2008

Sporty Dennis

When it comes to feeling healthy, I think I have turned my life around.

I've become more sporty; I go for a run every other day and do sit-ups, push-ups and power training the days I'm not running.

I eat more healthy stuff; still not up to 4 pieces of fruit every day but at least I have a balanced diet; I eat cheese on bread, lean ham, grapes or apple as a snack, pasta, fish, almost no potatoes anymore, etc. One thing, 'though; I'm hooked on ice cream. It's taking on a form of addiction; not just any plain flavor of ice cream, but the Ben & Jerry's ones. They have unstoppable combinations ; Strawberry cheese cake (strawberry ice cream with chunks of graham cracker crust mixed through it); Cake batter (Yellow cake batter ice cream with swirls of chocolate vanilla fudge); Pistachio with caramel cookie chunks; and so on.

It's just too good to pass when you're roaming the grocery store. Boy, am I going to miss my B&J ice cream when I get back to Belgium !

We went to the batting cages yesterday. That's where you swing a bat at balls being warped from a machine. You can pick either softballs (the bigger ones) or baseballs (the tiny weeny ones) and you can also pick the speed the machine will throw them at you; soft pitch - 40 MPH or 50 MPH.

There were a few people practicing in the cages, wearing no helmets or protective gear whatsoever, and all I could see were warning signs that said : Bat at your own risk - wear protective gear - we will not scrape you of the floor..

OK, I made that last one up.

So we went in without protective gear - hey, we didn't want to come off as pussies - and hit our first (soft)ball. Aki of course had some practice already and swung the bat vigorously, hitting almost every ball.

My first try was a - well maybe not a complete - disaster. But I was improving with every round. By the third round of hitting softballs at 40 MPH, I wanted to try swinging for baseballs at 40 MPH. What a difference ! There was a I think 12 year old kid standing two cages next to us, whacking baseballs as if it were flies, and I barely hit three out of 10 or something. I guess it does take some practice.

The last round of soft balls at 50 MPH were rather painful for the wrists. The first 3 swings felt more like I was just barely stopping the balls with my bat, rather than hitting them in to the field (aka cage). But by the 4th ball, I felt unbeatable. I kicked some softball ass.

Feeling all pumped up, we went to a giant sports store to look for sport outfits and stuff. In the end, Aki almost bought two folding chairs she can use at festivals, and I bought a Nike T-shirt that says "Cornell Lacrosse" even though I don't play Lacrosse. I guess we're not that big of sports fans after all. :)

Since we were out shopping near the mall, I picked up the last items I wanted before moving back to B; two pair of really cool pajama pants, some underwear (2 for 10 bucks), and some t-shirts. Old Navy had a bunch of shirts on sale and since it was Sunday a lot of the normal sizes (which are Small and Medium) were already gone. Some times I was lucky to find one small or medium sized shirt tucked away (or hiding from greedy human fingers) behind a stack of very lonely ugly shirts. I grabbed whatever I could and headed for the fitting rooms with about 6 or 7 shirts. One of them I bought. 3.99. What a sale. The rest of them was too small, too big, made me look like a wrinkled garbage bag or a bag of potatoes.

I better keep up that work out schedule..

Saturday, June 14, 2008

Lola's secret - Behind the scenes

So Lola's secret is actually based on an opening scene that I had in mind for a movie. I was walking down the street one day and there was this song playing on my I-pod that reminded me of the way Quentin Tarantino shoots his films and the choice of music he picks out for his soundtracks and I thought; what would be a typical opening scene for this director ?

And I came up with this :

"Camera looks down, filming the black road up close, white road markings flashing by as we move forward, then camera tilts horizontally towards the front of a car, a red convertible, and the camera comes in closer until only the license plate saying 'LOLA' remains in frame. then the camera tilts up, levels with the hood and starts crawling towards a girl, Lola, who's driving with her hair in the wind and one end of her scarf flapping in the wind.

As the camera comes in closer towards Lola, you can see she's crying. the camera comes even closer and you can see her make up is all messed up and tears are running from her eyes. the camera comes in closer until you only see her watery eyes.

then the camera swings outwards to your left hand side and draws a slow circle going clockwise behind her head. Slowly, the road ahead becomes visible and you can see a glimpse of the horizon but you can't exactly pin-point where Lola's actually heading to ..

the camera slowly continues the circle around her head and stops where it started the circle in front of her face. only this time we see Lola's entire face in frame. "Fuck it" ! Lola yells and the camera jolts up, and backs up from her head slowly seeing Lola driving from a bird's perspective, completely cut within the frame, so you only see the car with Lola in it driving on the road when suddenly the road ends, and we see her skidding on to a dirt road and then abruptly drop from a cliff.

the camera keeps moving forward as we see Lola tumbling to her death down the ravine, ending with an explosion that barely even gives a sound to give a sense of depth.

And then cut to black."

Then I thought, OK, let's analyze this scene:

OPENING SCENE

"Camera looks down, filming the black road up close, white road markings flashing by as we move forward, then camera tilts horizontally towards the front of a car, a red convertible, and the camera comes in closer until only the license plate saying 'LOLA' remains in frame.

--> this bit tells us we're driving down a road, and the person that this car belongs to is called Lola.

then the camera tilts up, levels with the hood and starts crawling towards a girl, Lola, who's driving with her hair in the wind and one end of her scarf flapping in the wind.

As the camera comes in closer towards Lola, you can see she's crying. the camera comes even closer and you can see her make up is all messed up and tears are running from her eyes. the camera comes in closer until you only see her watery eyes.

--> this bit tells us that Lola is driving there for a reason, that she is not happy and to make you wonder what has happened to her.

then the camera swings outwards to your left hand side and draws a slow circle going clockwise behind her head. Slowly, the road ahead becomes visible and you can see a glimpse of the horizon but you can't exactly pin-point where Lola's actually heading to ..

--> this is to give the audience a glimpse of where Lola is heading, maybe even revealing the reason why she is driving, or where she is driving to ?


the camera slowly continues the circle around her head and stops where it started the circle in front of her face. only this time we see Lola's entire face in frame. "Fuck it" ! Lola yells

--> this bit is to enlarge the drama and to grab the audience even more.

and the camera jolts up, and backs up from her head slowly seeing Lola driving from a bird's perspective, completely cut within the frame, so you only see the car with Lola in it driving on the road when suddenly the road ends, and we see her skidding on to a dirt road and then abruptly drop from a cliff.

the camera keeps moving forward as we see Lola tumbling to her death down the ravine, ending with an explosion that barely even gives a sound to give a sense of depth.

--> "Oh, surprise element ! Don't you want to know why she was crying and what happened to her ? And why she drove off a cliff ? :-)

Cut to black."

Do you think Tarantino would shoot this kind of scene ?

That's when I started thinking of reasons as to why she was crying and why she drove off of a clip. And that's how Lola's secret was born. :-)

Thursday, June 12, 2008

The end of Lola's secret

At the top of the mountain, hot wind was blowing through Lola's hair. The desert Valley opened up in front of her and she was relieved to see the road stretching into one straight line, leading right to the canyon.

Lola reached for her purse and wondered if her cell phone would work. If she could only call the detective she went to see the other day. Maybe he could go and check the house, see if every thing's OK with Lizzy.

The cell phone played a tune as she opened it up. Lola dialed 911. She knew she had to make a scene in order to get someone check out the house. She also hoped that she could talk to detective Morsley to tell him that Tony was going out of his mind and that she feared for her live.

Lola heard the phone dial.

"911 Emergency, how can I help you."

"Thank God, you need to come over here, my husband's gone crazy. I'm afraid he'll hurt me and my daughter Lizzy."

The voice in the phone responded, slowly. "Calm down, Ma'm, we need to know your address."

"You already know my address, I spoke to detective Morsley this week, he stopped by our house ! He knows what's going on ! "

"Hold on, I'll put you through."

The car rolled down the slope and gained in speed. The dry desert air vaporized Lola's tears.

"Detective Morsley." His voice sounded weary, like an alcoholic who smoked 5 packs of cigarettes a day.

"Detective Morsley, this is Lola, we spoke earlier this week about my husband. Tony ?"

"Right, Miss Matthews. You caught me at the right time, I was about to call you with some news."

Lola flinched. News ? Did they find the boy ? Was Tony getting arrested ?

"Miss Matthews," the voice croaked, "Tony was not the one who killed that boy."

The phone produced static noises as Lola passed the power cables leading to the power plant.

"What ?" she said." Tony didn't - "

"No." Morsley sighed. "Frank did."

Lola dropped her cell phone. All of this time she had believed it was Tony who'd accidentally killed that boy.

"But - but Tony was driving that night. He told me." Or did she dream all of this ?

"Miss Matthews, Tony was promised a large sum of money from Frank to stage all of this. In fact, Frank was driving for Tony because he was too drunk to drive. We have witnesses at the bar confirming this. Frank probably had a little talk with Tony when he purposely had hit that boy up the hill, and promised Tony everything in the world if he could hide him in his basement 'till all of this would blow over. "

That's when Lola realized something. Frank had left his cap in the basement. The night she came home and Lizzy was listening at the basement door, it had been Tony who was moaning and crying out for help.

Tony had been bleeding to death, stabbed in the gut by Frank, who had escaped through the window. But he forgot to take his cap with him.

Lola had freed Tony, wondering what he would do to her next. But Tony was infuriated, and had stormed out of the house yelling he would kill Frank.

So Lola had gone to the police, telling everything she knew.

Lola's phone yelled at her. "Lola ?" it said, "Miss Matthews !"

Lola picked up the phone.

"I'm sorry, I just.." she started crying, "How did you find out ?"

"The cap that we found in the basement belonged to the boy. We did a DNA analysis on the hairs found in the cap. Turns out he's not a random kid either; he was Frank's bastard son."

Morsley paused to give Lola a chance to take this all in.

"A few years back, Frank raped the Sheriff's wife. She wanted to keep the baby, but the Sheriff wouldn't put his reputation on the line and was afraid people wouldn't respect him anymore. "

Lola stared in front of her, hypnotized, listening to Morsley.

"So they got a divorce. But his ex-wife couldn't handle raisin' a boy just by herself. So she killed herself. Frank had heard about her death, and when he understood that the boy would go out looking for his dad, Frank decided he had no intention of raising a kid either. So he went looking for his son and thought killing him would take care of this once and for all."

Lola put all of the pieces together; Frank set Tony up. He knew they needed the money. He purposely got Tony waisted so Frank could drive, so he could find the boy that would make his life even more miserable. Or so he believed.

In her heart, Lola knew that Tony had been too proud to admit that he wasn't in control of this situation. And so he had agreed to hide Frank, take the money and hopefully run away with his wife and daughter.

And now that Lola hadn't trust him, had betrayed him by going to the police, Lola understood that Tony was mad at her and had kicked her out of the house. But that didn't mean she forgave him for what he had done.

The car sped down hill topping 85 miles per hour. Lola saw the canyon closing in and touched her brake. It cracked. The brakes didn't work. She pushed it again. Still nothing. Morsley croaked through the phone.

"Miss Matthews ? Are you still there ?"

Lola held out her phone and looked at it for a second. The she put it back to her ear and said: "I think Tony cut my brakes.."

"He did what ?" Morsley yelled through the speaker phone.

"I think Tony cut my goddamn' brakes !" Lola screamed.

She dropped her phone and tried stumping the brake pedal once more. The canyon drew closer and closer as she was steering the Cadillac downhill, trying to keep it on the road. But the brakes didn't respond at all.

Fuck
!

She reached for the hand break and saw the picture of Lizzy taped to it. She jerked the picture loose and looked at her daughter. Intuitively, she turned the photograph over and recognized Tony's handwriting.

The Cadillac jumped off the cliff and flew forward in the air for a few seconds before plunging into the canyon. The birds that were sitting in the trees next to the river hurried away from the canyon as the car crashed into the rocks and exploded. Lola had fallen on to the river bank. She was holding on to Lizzy's picture, bleeding from her head and completely unable to move.

With her last breath, Lola read Tony's message again. It said:

"I'm sorry."

-----------------------

The phone in the living room rang. Once. Twice.

"Hello?"

"Mr Matthews?" A voice croaked.

"This is Tony, who's this ?"

"This is detective Morsley."

Tony wasn't surprised to hear this voice.

"Listen, I told you I did not kill that boy."

The voice on the phone laughed.

"Oh, we know you didn't."

Tony froze.

"But we know you killed your wife."

Lola's secret - part 3

"Frank and I were heading home from the bar. We had a few beers, I admit, but I was still clear enough to drive."

Frank hissed. Tony shot him a threatening look and continued;

"So we were drivin' up Route 90 and by the time we reached Dead Man's summit, the sun was already comin' up."

Tony shifted his weight and the chair squeaked. A drop of sweat ran across Frank's temple.

Lola leaned toward the table. "So, what exactly happened ?"

Tony sighed.

"A boy was driving his bike in the middle of the road," he said, "We hit him."

"What ?" Lola gasped. "How did you not see - "

"The sun was in my goddamn eyes !" Tony slammed the table. " Couldn't see a damn thing !" Frank and Lola lifted their drinks off the shaky surface.

Lola really tried to stay calm, but her voice was trembling. "So was he .. dead ?"

Frank hadn't spoken for a long time but chose to say something now:

"No, the boy was still alive."

Tony stood up and raised a fist. Lola grabbed his arm and prevented him to hit Frank, who in his defense had already jumped off of his chair.

Lola's high voice bounced off of the black and white tiled kitchen walls. "Will you stop it already !"
Tony sat down again, took a deep breath and continued;

"So we buried him."

This was too much for Lola to deal with. How can you bury a child like that ? Driving intoxicated is one thing - irresponsible at most, but in this deserted shit hole of a place, people were drunk all of the time. But, driving around waisted and burying a child alive ? That's just messed up. Tony could get a live long sentence or even worse for that.

Lola veered up from her chair, knocking it over on the ground. "You buried him ?" she said, "How could you do that !"

Tony leaned back in his chair, spread both of his arms and held out his chest as if trying to catch a ball. "What was I supposed to do, take him to the police station? Point them to the blood on my truck ?"

Lola thought about this. After all, a live without Tony might not be so bad.. things were not running smoothly between them these last few years. Ever since he got laid off by his boss, Tony wanted to become a successful independent contractor.

"I promise you," he had said to Lola during a romantic candle lit dinner, "I'll be the richest contractor this desert has ever known." And they had kissed and made love and Lizzy was born 9 months after that and they were the happiest couple in town. For a while, at least.

Only, Tony had failed miserably at building a successful business. And that had put a strain on their relationship. Of course, with Tony in jail, Lola would have to find a better way to support Lizzy and at the same time manage to be home for her, too. They could move to the city, find a better life, move on with their lives..

"I - I dunno what to say, Tony." she said, pulling up her chair, "This is just - wrong."

"I told him to go to the Po-lice and tell'em that he'd just found the kid lyin' on the side of the road like that." Frank said.

"Yeah, like that wouldn't make them suspicious of us." Tony grinned at Frank.

But Frank still didn't seem to be impressed by Tony's attitude. "And dumpin' a little kid in the desert, comin' home lookin' like we just slaughtered a cow is a better way of dealing with this ?"

Tony kept his cool and looked up at Frank, who continued his rant;

"How about our clothes, my cap ?" He threw it on the table. The bloody fingerprints were obviously still fresh. "The dent in your car ? The loose bumper on your truck ?"

"Yeah," Tony nodded to Frank, "Whaddabout that ?"

"The mechanic at the repair shop is gonna know you had some fix-ups done. He might tell the Po-lice. Maybe we should go out and run him over too, then. "

Tony's face reddened. "What d'you suggest I do, then. "

Frank stood up and walked toward the kitchen door. "I'll fix up your car tonight, you go to the cops tomorrow and tell 'em you saw a boy rottin' in the desert."

Frank picked up his cap from the table. "I'll make sure I burn this out in the field and no one ever needs to know. And if you're too scared of telling the law, then I will."

Lola had not never thought Tony would be capable of what he was about to do. He jumped up, took a knife out of the drawer, twisted Frank's arm around his back and held the knife to his throat.

"Here's what we're gonna do," Tony gritted through his teeth, "You're gonna fix my truck," he said, "and then we're gonna let you stay in our comfy dark basement 'till all of this has blown over."

Lola was paralyzed by what she was witnessing. Tony has lost his mind.

Frank looked down at the knife pointing at his throat. This guy was not fooling around.

"And after that, you're gonna leave this town and move to goddamn Afrika for all I care, but I don't wanna see you ever again."

Tony slowly pierced Franks throat with the point of the knife. A drop of blood thickened on the blade.

"Ya got that ?"

Frank nodded carefully.

Lola tried reasoning with Tony. But he wouldn't listen. His mind was all made up. And he promised her that, if she ever tried to help Frank escape in any way, he would kill Frank and lock her up in the basement, too.

After Frank had fixed the truck later that night, Lola had to tie Frank up against the wall next to the heat installation. He would get a glass of water twice a day, some beans, bread and an apple for a meal and could only walk around the basement for one hour every day.

Lola really tried to take care of Frank as much as she could, given the fact that she needed to go to work and take care of Lizzy too, who, of course, knew nothing of this whole ordeal. Lola would come home after work at night to find her daughter sleeping in her bed or watching TV early in the morning, while all of this time Frank was tied up with his face pointed to a basement wall covered in mold.

Lola would bring Frank more water and food as Tony was starting to loose interest in what was going on in the basement. Of course, Tony would still check Frank's condition every day and punch him in the gut just to top of his misery, and then lock the basement door before giving Lizzy a goodnight kiss in the kitchen.

Lola never heard from the Police or was told stories at the diner about a boy found dead in the desert. She guessed that Tony and Frank had buried him well, or that the coyote's had found the body and had bitten it to pieces.

One night, Lola came home late from work, and saw Lizzy eavesdropping at the basement door.
Lola dropped her coat and car keys and ran over to her daughter who was listening intensely for sounds.

"Lizzy?"

Lizzy looked up, scared.

"Mommy, you're home !" She swung around Lola's neck.

"What's the matter, honey ?" Of course, Lola could already guess what was going on, but she didn't want to upset her baby.

Lizzy's voice whispered in her ear. "I hear someone moaning in the basement." she said, "I - I think it's a ghost."

Lola felt her blood sink to her feet. How's she gonna explain this ?

She whispered in Lizzy's ear; "And did the ghost say anythin', sweety?"

Lizzy's big brown eyes just sort of stared at Lola. She must have been frightened.

"Well ?" Lola said, keeping her eyes fixed on Lizzy.

"I'M GONNA DIIE !" Lizzy screamed.

Lola almost dropped her daughter. She knew it had been Frank calling out for help. He might had managed to untie the cloth in his mouth, hoping to reach someone up stairs. Lucky for him, Tony wasn't home. Being a Friday night, he was probably out drinking at the bar.

"I'll go and take a look," Lola said and she put Lizzy at the stairs to the second floor. "Just wait here, and Mommy'll be right back, OK ?"

Lizzy nodded and sat down on the first step, holding her head in her two palms.

Lola walked through the kitchen and opened up the basement door. She heard Frank moaning in the dark below. Step by step, she moved further down the stairs, holding her hand against the damp wall for balance, until she reached the ground floor.

Lola felt a light switch sticking out of the wall. She hesitated for a second, took a deep breath, and flicked it.